Balancing work and family life can be difficult, especially if your work involves travel.
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I thought about writing a post on juggling work commitments, travel with my job, and time at home with children and family. And then I came across this post from community friend Robin Moffatt:
And…well…it’s exactly the thoughts, sentiments, and motivation that I wanted to put in writing. Pretty much exactly. (Except the part about a spreadsheet — I’m a DBA; we don’t use spreadsheets…ever!). Robin will propbably be pissed with me saying this (because he writes some great tech stuff), but I reckon this post is his best work. It captures so well the importance of…the important stuff. This quote in particular is spot on:
In ten years who will give two monkeys if you presented at SuperKool Konference 2008? Conferences come and go. Kids just go.
Hence, I don’t need to write a post, because Robin has captured it perfectly. The only augmentation I have is due to the differences in ages of our children. Robin’s are 5 and 7, and mine are now 12 and 14. I’ve never been a huge fan of getting children onto the tech gadget bandwagon too soon, but now that mine are both in secondary school, I’ve changed that tune a little and got them a phone each. Obviously, that comes with risks, and the drawbacks that all kids tend to exhibit once they have phones (I’m looking at you, Instagram and Snapchat!). But (for me) the positives of being able to reach out to the boys at a moment’s notice when I’m away outweighs that. Now I can immediately share with them the experiences of overseas adventures, and hopefully pique their interest to one day travel and explore the world when they’re older. Or even if it’s just a “Hey, I’ve just landed in transit in Dubai,” it’s a reminder to them that their dad is thinking about them when he’s away. Similarly, if they’re concerned about something or even stuck on their math homework, a quick Whatsapp or Telegram and we’re hooked up — at least academically, albeit not geographically. My next plan is to get them to occasionally come to these work trips with me; such experiences I think will be more beneficial than the smattering of school days they might miss.
So kudos to Robin. If you travel for work, or even if you just work long hours — that post is well worth your time.
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